Self-esteem is there a dark side?

We all agree that self-esteem is a good thing but too much of something is simply not right.confidence is good. However, overconfidence can rip you off the joy you think you have found.

I have a certain workmate who each time you sit next to them ,they will throw in so much criticism the next time you see them you will just want to run.One thing is they don’t realize when they do it.So this got me thinking why is it that each of his conversation involved demeaning those around him.This is how we normal human beings treat insects.Everytime you see an insect around you simply want to squash it.So basically this analogy will help you understand their thinking.According to them they are more superior whereas everyone around them is inferior.This drives me to my content today.

Excessive confidence can lead to  acts of aggression.Excessive use of drugs, narcissistic behaviours  and perfection.Is there any such thing as  perfectionism? perfectionist are recorded to be suffering from obsessive compulsive behaviour.This is in situations where there aspect of perfection gets in the way of their daily activities.In being a perfectionist one tends to overlook what they are corrected in .They are not open to positive criticism.Narcissistic behaviours have in history brought up issues of racism .The Narcissistic people tend to see themselves as more deserving and as a higher race in cases of racism.The aspect of being narcissistic is being self absorbed where everything revolves around the individual.This can be very harmful to those around the individual.Abuse of drugs is brought by extreme self confidence .excessive confidence leads one down a road of doing that which pleases them,not realizing that some of the set behavior is harmful to themselves.

High self-esteem can be expressed when one is violent. Violence doesn’t pay. There are individuals who don’t feel at peace without starting fights wherever they are. You and I both know individuals who always have to start fights in the clubs. One drink too many one is already picking fights with the bar attender.The individual is beating up the guy who is checking out his woman.There are also those ladies who sit around in their areas ,estates and plots who have to pick fights with their fellows.This is because they have very high self-esteem which they use to validate themselves or feel more superior.Individuals who pick fights a lot and tend to find themselves in quarrels tend to be overly confident.

Whereas confidence and high self esteem are important tenets in life ,you and I agree that too much of it is bad and very harmful.My question to you is where do you lie?