Recognising Toxity

A toxic relationship is characterized by insecurity, self-centeredness, dominance and control. You may recognize some toxic behaviours in your yourself, your partner or the relationship by itself. Toxic behaviours are often caused by past events in that may have caused trauma. These signs are not immediately potrayed but with time they start showing. Here are major signs for a toxic partner.

1.Narcissism
Being narcissistic is having an inflated sense of self-importance. When you or your partner start showing signs of imbalance in the relationship, when actions of you or your partner feel unfair or one-sided then this is a clear indication that you’re in a poisonous relationship and you should try to work on it and change for the better.

2. Lack of trust.
A relationship without trust is like a car without fuel, even if you stay in it, there is no way it will move. Trust is the fuel of a relationship. Actions of your partner may make you not trust them and as yourself, you might do things that may make your partner not trust you. This goes hand in hand with being honest. Honesty grows trust.

3. Feeling drained.
If you are feeling drained emotionally, mentally and physically, then you are probably in a very toxic relationship. A healthy relationship should make you happy and productive. It should not pull you back.

4. Hostility.
Most cases of hostility happen in a relationship where one partner has anger issues and is always defensive or always giving an atmosphere of argument. Though it is not often, such relationship end in people being hurt physically. Hostility may lead to mutual avoidance and lack of communication which is very dangerous for a relationship.

5. Insufficient support.
When you or your partner is always trying to bring the other down when an idea or something of the sort is brought up, then your situationship may be considered toxic. We come in relationships to grow and build each other and if a partner is not supporting you as they should be, then you are wasting your time. You will never move forward.

6. Self-betrayal
When you find yourself always doing things to impress your partner or always agreeing to what your partner says even if you don’t like it, well…you already know what I am about to say. This makes you feel unworthy, unhappy and the most disturbing of them all is uncomfortability. For you to have a healthy relationship, you should be comfortable and have the ability to give your opinion on some issues and your partner should understand you but if none of that is happening, you’re in deep toxicity.

Basically, a toxic relationship makes you feel unappreciated and uncomfortable and it is a high time you ask for change or leave the relationship. Remember, a relationship does not have to be romantic to be toxic.
Everyone deserves a second chance, but not for the same mistake